Firstly, any voice message that goes over the one minute mark is considered a podcast ;)
I struggle with loneliness big time. I moved to Brighton two years ago, in the middle of the pandemic, and while this place is one of the friendliest on Earth, it can feel very clikey. I also find that being child-free and not in a committed relationship means you are left out of outings that involve couple with kids. I recently was out with two couples, and at the end of the night one half of a couple told the other that they should go on a holiday together. I sat there in the middle, completely ignored. I kept thinking "i want a mini holiday with mates", but I didn't come my way.
I still message, FT and email friends from college, but those are all lovely gay men :) that I left behind in Spain. But I want the random cup of coffee, the walk with my dog, the long, long chats.
Ugh, I felt this in my soul, yes. The never being considered when around couples is always such a blow. Here's hoping we all find the sisterhood we crave!
I feel this deeply. Since my move back to Canada I have missed having girl friends and I deeply miss being a friend. Whilst there are people here I’ve known for 30 years, I’ve been gone 20 of those years and there just doesn’t seem to be a place for me with any of them. Perhaps I should have anticipated it, but I didn’t think it would be this hard. I’ve been here 13 months and there are some friends who live less than 15 minutes away who I haven’t seen - I’ve reached out numerous times and I’m to the point where I’ve just stopped. I would see them whenever I came to Canada to see my mum, and yet time for a coffee just can’t be found. I understand that they are in a different place, most have young kids while mine is a rather independent teenager, but I find it hurtful and I’m lonely.
Yessss, yes yes. Agree with so much.
Firstly, any voice message that goes over the one minute mark is considered a podcast ;)
I struggle with loneliness big time. I moved to Brighton two years ago, in the middle of the pandemic, and while this place is one of the friendliest on Earth, it can feel very clikey. I also find that being child-free and not in a committed relationship means you are left out of outings that involve couple with kids. I recently was out with two couples, and at the end of the night one half of a couple told the other that they should go on a holiday together. I sat there in the middle, completely ignored. I kept thinking "i want a mini holiday with mates", but I didn't come my way.
I still message, FT and email friends from college, but those are all lovely gay men :) that I left behind in Spain. But I want the random cup of coffee, the walk with my dog, the long, long chats.
I miss sisterhood. YES.
Ugh, I felt this in my soul, yes. The never being considered when around couples is always such a blow. Here's hoping we all find the sisterhood we crave!
Wow wow wow. 50 hours for a casual friend? I'd never even thought about that. No wonder it can feel like an uphill struggle!
Right?! That statistic really took me aback.
I feel this deeply. Since my move back to Canada I have missed having girl friends and I deeply miss being a friend. Whilst there are people here I’ve known for 30 years, I’ve been gone 20 of those years and there just doesn’t seem to be a place for me with any of them. Perhaps I should have anticipated it, but I didn’t think it would be this hard. I’ve been here 13 months and there are some friends who live less than 15 minutes away who I haven’t seen - I’ve reached out numerous times and I’m to the point where I’ve just stopped. I would see them whenever I came to Canada to see my mum, and yet time for a coffee just can’t be found. I understand that they are in a different place, most have young kids while mine is a rather independent teenager, but I find it hurtful and I’m lonely.
I so feel you on this. It's super hard.