Thursday Murmurings
Gaga for Gucci
Just posting this because the House of Gucci movie, starring the inimitable Lady Gaga comes out this week and every image I’ve seen of her in it, she is a mood, a vibe, a whole goddamn spirit of fabulosity and I am not ready.
Side note: I feel like I don’t know what Lady Gaga looks like. She’s such a chameleon, she looks so different in everything she does. I couldn’t pick her out of a line up. And I love her for that.
This week, may we all be more Gaga.
Things that caught my eye this week:
I’ve seen various things buzzing around online about this notion this week, but this article - What is Romantic Friendship? - does a really good job of summing it up.
“The proliferation of new relationship models, including romantic friendships, reflects a growing desire to be imaginative about what intimate relationships can look like. Romantic friendships take some of the elements of a traditional romantic relationship – the desire for intimacy, the commitment to build one’s life around another person, and even sex – without having to take all of them at once.”
With the scope for sexuality, relationships and intimacy, and what all those things mean, expanding all the time, this gives much food for thought, for sure. Super interesting.
Food for Thought
As we navigate this life thing, particularly if we are on a healing journey, there is much talk about strength; seeking it, gaining it, returning to it.
And while yes, finding and exercising our mental and emotional strength is important, can we lend equal stature to holding space for our hurt?
When was the last time you let yourself fall apart? When did you last have a good, snot-and-mascara pouring down your face, gasping for air kind of cry? When did you last let your hurt, anger, grief, rage, upset and sadness flow unapologetically through your veins?
If you’ve been holding on to it, let this be your sign that it’s safe to put it down, sis. You deserve to honour those feelings. Your body needs you to release them. Those feelings are a part of you. You can’t hide them forever, you can’t keep burying them. They will come out one way or another. Your tight shoulders, that constant headache, that knot in your stomach - you know it’s manifesting in a myriad of other ways.
It’s time. Release it. And do it as often as you need. It doesn’t take away from your strength. Honouring your vulnerability merely adds to your power.
This is your sign. Go get a box of tissues and let it all out.
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In Monday’s paid version of the newsletter, we’re talking about birth control and how monumentally shit it is for women. This cropped up on social media last week and got me thinking about it.
I don’t think I know a single woman who has had a positive experience with birth control.
Monday’s newsletter will undoubtedly be many words of rage, because once I get going on this topic, it’s hard to stop me, but it will also be a space for you to share your experiences and frustrations.
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Your Weekly Biggie Smalls (P)update
This week, Biggie would like to remind you that if you felt cute, you should never delete it.
Until next week, smile at strangers, spread good vibes, be nice to people.