Thursday Murmurings
THAT trial, historical badasses and strong, independent (tired) women
Happy Thursday, ya beauties,
Kicking it off this week by sending love to the millions of victims of abuse. I’ll be honest with you, I didn’t watch a second of that Johnny Depp and Amber Heard trial, but when the verdict came in, I felt sick to my stomach. What was more sickening though were people cheering for Johnny Depp, as though he were some kind of hero - particularly disheartening to see women on his side and calling Heard a liar. This point has been made abundantly clear but many don’t seem to want to pay attention to it: there is absolutely no question that Johnny Depp is an abusive asshole. It’s clear they had a highly dysfunctional relationship. This trial just means Heard is never allowed to say she was a victim of abuse (even though, in the article at the root of this lawsuit where she refers to herself as such, she never once mentions Depp’s name). This is wildly problematic.
If we thought it was hard for abuse victims to come forward before this, it’ll be near impossible now. It’s sickening and sad and rage inducing.
Things that caught my eye this week
I love a bit o’ historical woman badassery, so this piece on the Mongol women who were running shit during Genghis Khan’s rule and beyond is a pretty cool read.
Food For Thought
You’re doing great, sweetie. Stop beating yourself up, stop thinking you should be doing more, stop comparing yourself to someone you feel is nailing life more than you. You know nothing of their journey. Focus on you, your growth, your path and your purpose. Do what you can, with what you have, today. And if you fall short of what you wanted for yourself today, oh well, shit happens. We have tomorrow. And maybe tomorrow requires you to chill the fuck out, rest and not feel guilty about it. Seriously, you really are doing great, sweetie. I’m proud of you.
You should subscribe to the paid version of The Murmuration because….
On Monday’s paid edition of The Murmuration, I’m talking about how exhausting it is to be a strong, independent woman. Sure, we’ll all join in on a rousing chorus of ‘sisters are doing it for themselves!’ and we are, but we’re fucking tired. If you are a single woman, holding down a career, taking care of your home, cooking, paying for every single last thing by yourself and attempting to have some semblance of a life without a partner to shoulder the physical, emotional or financial burden of it all - you are being celebrated in this here newsletter on Monday. We’ll also talk about why it’s important for partnered women to look out for their single friends and maintain community. Subscribe and come share your thoughts!
Your Weekly Biggie Smalls (P)update
This week, Biggie would like to remind you to frolic, with wild abandon, wherever you can. Frolic on beaches, frolic in fields, frolic in your garden. Just get outside, feel the sun, feel the breeze, feel the joy.
Until next time, smile at strangers, spread good vibes, be nice to people.