Thursday Murmurings
Relationship OCD, rooting yourself in your why and book nerding
Happy Thursday, you beauties!
This week we’re diving into ‘relationship OCD’ (who even knew that was a thing?!), rooting yourself in your why and nerding out about books.
Things that caught my eye this week
This article about relationship OCD (which I’d never heard of) took me by surprise this week. When I dived into it, I can understand. And Lordy, it sounds stressful as hell! The two girls they speak to in this article are 24 years old and honestly, that made me really sad on a couple of fronts. Immediately I thought ‘have you tried just being single?’ which I know sounds harsh, but honestly, at some point you have to question if a relationship is stressing you out that much, is it the right place for you to be? Perhaps you need some time by yourself to be able to firm up your own foundation, you know? But also, if there’s one thing I could tell my younger self, it would be to not fixate on being in a relationship at all at that point. Twenty four seems so young to be putting all your eggs in that basket to the degree that you’re having to seek professional help. The societal pressure to be coupled really needs to be analysed more.
Food for thought
Sometimes, you can get so bogged down in a thing, so overwhelmed by the minutiae, so laboured by the day-to-day of it all, you forget what it’s all about. Every now and then, it’s worth zooming out and bigger picturing this thing. Why did you start? Why did it matter to you? Why do you persist? Usually at the root of that is your passion. And passion doesn’t always show up as fireworks and big, shiny moments. It lives in those little details, in your persistence, in your refusal to give up. Even if that initial spark of passion doesn’t feel quite so big right now, it’s what keeps the whole thing burning. Keep on, keepin’ on, friend.
What I read this week
Hooked, I’d heard a lot about and it’s probably one of the stand out reads of the year so far for me. This is a story of female friendships, loneliness and the desire for connection. There were some very relatable threads and insights in this. Though I like to think I’ve never gotten quite as crazy as the characters in this book, I certainly understand the yearning for solid connection and friendship. Highly recommend.
I’m currently about half way through The Nightingale. I would class this as not my usual kind of read - I’m not really big on historical fiction but on the rare occasions I’ve tried it, I actually quite like it, so I should probably explore more. Anyway, my parents were both raving about this book and lent it to me recently. In all honesty, I tend to avoid books over 500 pages ‘cause I feel like I just don’t have the attention span for it, but this is the year I’m pushing the boundaries of my reading and so far, this is an absolute treat.
Don’t forget, in August, our Reading Club kicks off. The theme for August is Romance. I’m thinking of trying out one of Kennedy Ryan’s books, as I hear great things. I’m looking forward to diving into a genre I usually avoid. We reconvene here on the last Thursday of the month to share what we read. Make sure you’re subscribed to enjoy the fun!
Your Weekly Biggie (p)Update
This week, Biggie wants to remind you to find your joy, be a lil whimsical, roll around in some grass and buy yourself your favourite treat. It’s working out pretty well for him.
Until next week, smile at strangers, spread good vibes, be nice to people.
Waves at the Biggie boy ♥️
Okay just read about those two young girls , bloody hell ! I am sure it must be horrific for their partner as well which in turn creates unbearable stress. Babes go dance on tables and have giddy fun with your friends and grow from that.
On the book front I’ve just read two Kristin Hannah books , The Women and then Summer Island so just ordered The Nightingale!