Thursday Murmurings
White Lotus, firing your friends and taking risks
Happy Thursday, ya beauties!
Kicking it off this week with Aimee Lou Wood who DID THE DAMN THING this season on White Lotus. Gawd, I have hated the discourse around her teeth, however it is delightfully refreshing to see an alternative to American ultra-straight teethiness on screen. Chelsea was such a sweet soul and Wood played her to absolute perfection. Now, when are we gonna have the conversation about her storyline being a cautionary tale about the perils of pouring all your love into someone who never returns that energy? Because whew! There was some MESSAGING in there!
Things that caught my eye this week
This piece in The Atlantic, called Stop Firing Your Friends, is worth a read. As my craving for close community and sisterhood strengthens with age, I think about friendship dynamics a lot. Over the years, I’ve heard many tales of friendship break ups (I, myself, ‘fired’ a friend last year) and I think this piece really touches on something, in that in this modern era, our capacity isn’t what it once was. We want convenience over complexity - the slightest hint of someone falling short, we tend to make less and less room for them in our lives. With age, friendship dynamics change and perhaps we all need to get to grips with the fact that we may not experience the closeness of sleepovers and braiding each other’s hair anymore, but there is still value in the friendship.
Food for thought
You are not obligated. You’re not obligated to stay the same, to hold the same opinions you once did, to be the version of you that people are determined to hold you to. It is your right, nay, prerogative, to put that thang down, flip it and reverse it. Stop thinking you’re beholden to old patterns and allow yourself to take risks, move differently, go in unexpected ways.
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We need to talk about Carrie Coon’s monologue in White Lotus. There are so many takes flying around the internet about this and I think it opens up a really important dialogue about women’s friendships in our 40s. Many found the speech relatable, many found it profoundly sad. I found it to be both and I think it’s forcing a lot of women to confront their own realities and friendships.
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Your Weekly Biggie Smalls (p)Update
This week, Biggie would like to remind you that getting outside and feeling the sun on your face is a top tier hack that, twelve times out of ten, will make you feel better and provide respite from whatever happens to be pissing you off today. Turn your face to the sun, Biggie says, let it heal you.
Until next week; smile at strangers, spread good vibes, be nice to people.