Thursday Murmurings
Rabia Choudry, marriage sabbaticals and Biggie being adorable
Happy Thursday, ya beauties!
Kicking it off this week with Rabia Choudry. If you, like me, are a podcast nerd, you’ll be more than familiar with the hit series, Serial, that debuted in 2014. Rabia Choudry initially reached out to the producer to tell her about the case of her family friend, Adnan Syed, who’d been found guilty of murdering his ex girlfriend in 1999, when he was 17. Serial was a hit, but the hype around the case came and went with it. Choudry, however, never stopped campaigning to free Adnan. On Monday September 19th, he was finally released, as the prosecution admitted they no longer had confidence in the evidence that convicted him. Choudry’s dedication to the cause, her unshakable belief in her friend - I have nothing but admiration.
Things that caught my eye this week
I really enjoyed this piece about marriage sabbaticals. As someone who is fiercely independent and currently really digging in to what kind of relationship I can see myself having in the future, I’ve gotta say, the idea of living with someone doesn’t really massively appeal to me. I always enjoy discussions around different types of relationship set ups - mainly just as interesting food for thought.
The problem with intimate relationships, marriages at the apex, is that resentments can be constantly replenished. A core component of forgiveness is to get some distance from the event, but how do you manage that when, pattern-finding species that we are, there is always a fresh event to remind you of the last?
Also, this line: “..a woman putting herself first was a disruption of the social order, almost an insult to it.” Ooooofff.
Food for thought
You can’t undo the past. Whatever happened, happened. Learn your lessons, move on. You can either allow a shitty thing from your past to be a crutch that you lean on, justifying why you’re stuck, or you can make a decision about the person you want to be from here on out and honour that vision every day. Put the work in and do that. Regret simply isn’t worth it.
You should subscribe to the paid version of The Murmuration because…
On Monday’s paid version of the letter, I’m gonna be talking about the joys of being child free. There’s seems to be an abundance of weird takes flying around the internet right now from parents taking aim at child free folks, insinuating that we live sad, meaningless, loveless lives and frankly, I’m a little fucking sick of it. So Monday’s letter will be a celebration of living your life the way you want to and minding your business (which these parents really need to do a lot more of.)
Your Weekly Biggie Smalls (P)update
This week, Biggie would like to remind you of…well, nothing really other than how handsome he is. He’s really feeling himself. He’s been doing some chest workouts and was very excited to show you the results. Typical gym bro. Embarrassing really.
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Until next week, smile at strangers, spread good vibes, be nice to people.