It's time to build the commune

Single women gotta look out for each other

One of my core values for this year is community.

As a single, child-free woman in her forties, it’s a word and concept that has been coming up a lot for me over the past few years. Mainly because I feel I’ve struggled to really find mine. I moved countries during the pandemic, leaving everything I’ve ever known and have since been living in places that haven’t quite felt aligned. Struggling to feel connected and plugged-in to a community has somewhat been par for the course on this journey.

But in a social structure that prioritises romantic relationships over all, it seems quite common that once people get married, they tend to neglect people outside of their immediately relationship and family. I’ve had conversations with a lot of single women who feel this at the moment.

It can be tough to find people to lean on.

Last week, I injured my neck and had a couple of days where I was almost completely incapacitated. Those are the times, as a single person, that you feel the lack of community the most.